Let Go: Open For The New Year

I'm a workaholic and when I am in the midst of a task I could easily end up on the next episode of Snapped if you disturb me when I'm "in the flow."  So much so that I don't even let my own body interrupt.  Last week this unfortunate habit came in to play as I had to go to the ladies room but I wasn't at a stopping point and so I worked some more until I REALLY HAD TO GO.  

I could take no more and so I  ran to the ladies room, jerked open the bathroom door, quickly flipped up the toilet lid and then began to feverishly fight with my belt buckle.  Stupid lost weight means that I HAVE to wear belts.  Finally, as I finish torturing myself with the idea of walking back in to the lobby with the water stain of a two year old ornamenting my slacks, Jesus heard my cries and the buckle opened but then I couldn't get the button on the slacks open.  

I was literally visualizing the Clorox commercial and thinking I'm too old to be "having a situation."  Then when my frustration reached an all time high I threw my hands up in surrender and my pants fell down.  I was saved from disgrace because I simply let go.

In our business we often find ourselves in "situations."  A client is sucking the life out of us.  A project requires more from us that originally anticipated.  Our to-do list is so long that nothing gets done.  All of this simply means that it's time to LET GO.

Every client isn't a good client for you.  Every project isn't meant for YOU to do it all.  Some of the items on your to-do list should really be don'ts or at least not right nows.  As we approach the end of 2016 and prepare to enter a New Year it's simply a great time to reevaluate.

What are your preconceived notions about your business?  When's the last time you looked at your business plan (please tell me that you have a business plan)?  Are you clients a part of your target market or have you strayed to anyone and EVERYONE who needs some type of product or service that you COULD do?  Do you think that no one can do it like you and so you do EVERYTHING.  LET GO!

For 2017 I wish for you productivity, purpose and peace of mind.  Productivity to accomplish your goals and thereby MAKE MONEY.  Purpose to maintain the proper focus of what your productivity should be directed towards and Peace of Mind from keeping your life in balance and understanding what's truly important.  Let Go of the negativity and negative people.  Let Go of preconceived notions  and assumptions because you've grown and changed and so have others.  Let Go and let others help you to the finish line.  Let go of 2016 the ups and downs and prepare for a bigger, better 2017.  Happy New Year!!!  

Shirley E. Crawford

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The Perfect Fit

With this new phase in my life I, inadvertantly, lost some weight...over 30lbs and probably more (I no longer weigh every day).  It has now become essential that I invest in a new wardrobe.  Today, as I continued to tug my jeans up, which now ALL display a baggy crotch, no waist and no curvature of buttocks, I reflected on another ill fitting outfit.

I once owned a red gown.  It was only worn twice and at present I have no real idea of where it is.  It was a lovely gown that clearly belonged at the GEFA Christmas event hosted amongst the artwork of the Virginia Museum of Fine Art.  But one could only feel pity for it when you saw it on my figure back then.  I don't think that there's much sadder than living beneath the potential of a siren red dress.

Eons later I had another formal event and pulled the siren from the mothballs and figured I'd try it on for giggles.  Oh my what a difference a few pounds make.  I transformed from Olive Oil to Jessica Rabbit so much so that I was concerned in wearing it to the church gala that I was set to attend.  That amazing transformation was all because of a few pounds in the right place and finally wearing what fit me...what was RIGHT FOR ME.

So, in your business how do you know what doesn't fit you and what do you do when you realize it. What do you do when an idea, partner or client doesn't fit your culture, target market or your business.? 

These misfits are costing you.  My general equation is D=eETt.  Explained my D(ecisions) are based on the amount of e(nergy) E(ffort) T(me) and t(thought) that must be applied.  If  I have to use so much energy that I couldn't possibly have the Time to complete the task then I nix the idea in the bud immediately.  But if I can find  the proper balance of eETt then it's a winner.

Having a client that doesn't fit always cost you energy that you don't have to spare, Effort to work with someone that is outside of your normal flow, Time to have to do something different just for them and entirely too much thought of how to do what they need done.  It's so much easier to either put the idea, partner or client on mothballs and then circle back to it later.

In the future it might be a perfect fit or you can determine that it simply wasn't meant to be.  The real rule is to know your business, be true to business and don't try to fit where you don't.  Just excel at being you and you will succeed.

Shirley E. Crawford

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Addressing Your Fears

I am saddened to admit that, like SuperMan, I too have my kryptonite. Somewhere in the past 15 years I went from leaping from the attic to my father's arms to be petrified of heights. I don't know when it crept up on me I just know that one day it was there, this sickening feeling in my gut accompanied by this unstable dizzying sensation as if I'm having my own personal earthquake.  

This feeling makes me feel weak.  It's not logic or reason based.  The quadratic equation will not give me the answer for "y."  Even though I know there is nothing to fear but fear itself that now means to me that I'm now afraid of being afraid.  

So, every year I do something that makes me sick or at the least EXTREMELY uncomfortable.  I crossed, like a turtle mind you, the CLEAR glass bridge at the Grand Canyon.  I hike up hellaciously tall mountains and go to the edge to look over and this year I saught the wind.

I got in to the line at Kings Dominion to once again alert my fear that I wouldn't let it rule me.  It was a September day at the end of the season so very light lines at the park.  I watched others go up and it looks kind of innocent like a merry go round at the top of a 30 story building.  30 STORY BUILDING!!!!

I calmed myself, said prayers, sang songs and spoke to no one else in the line.  When you are dealing with that much anxiety other people can't help no matter how they try.  Only you can conquer your fears. Finally, I am directed to a seat but as I go to put my bag in the container bin (because of the nature of the ride no items are allowed on with you even hats and glasses are suggested to be removed).  As I approach the bin with their warnings in my mind I contemplate just exiting by the gate so very close to the bins BUT I persevere.

I buckle in to the seat and test it to see if it will pop up.  I'm questioning the safety of it all and discussing how stupid this is to be doing anyway.  I have several conversations in my head but when the attendant approaches me to BARELY tug on my seatbelt I don't cry LET ME OUT (not aloud anyway).

The ride rises and it seems innocent enough until the seats start expanding out into a larger circle.  Ok, I can do that but then I look down and it was all I could do to calmly wrap my arms around the lap brace on the empty seat next to me.  I shut my eyes so tight that I started to develop a headache but finally I remembered that if I'm going to do it I'm going to do it right.  That was a lovely speech until the ride reached the top where you can truly view the entire park and started spinning faster and faster and faster and OH MY GOD what have I done.  So, this is why this stupid ride is called the Windseeker.

I maintained my lunch and it eventually slowed down and started to descend.  With eyes wide open and stomach on alert I gazed upon my surroundings as we finally began to approach Planet Earth again.  The view is so serene and settling and I would have easily allowed fear to keep me from ever seeing it.

In our lives we often do the same.  We allow fear and doubts to keep us from our dreams and aspirations.  So, you want to quit your 9-5 to become your own boss or you want to start a weekend cupcake business.  Well, the only thing stopping you is YOU.  Don't let fear, or other people's fears, keep you from having the best vision of your life possible...the vision of you being happy.

I will never say that the fears go away but I will say they have no control over you.  So, Go Get IT and as always Live Better, Do Better, Be Better!!!

Shirley E. Crawford

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Grow Right or Die

Grow Right or Die

My great nephew, Jeremiah, is only 2 years old, (pictured left as a baby) but is the size of a very solid 5 year old.  But he still has the communication skills and comprehension of a 2 year old.  He has the same inclinations of a 2 yr old to throw things and that strong temperament often aligned with the "Terrible Twos."  So, he has all of this strength and height and therefore can get in to SO MUCH trouble but people see him and assume that he's mentally challenged because he doesn't really talk but not realizing that he's younger than he looks.  Fortunately, as he ages his mental abilities will catch up with his body but can your business say the same.

Our business babies that we nurture and grow can also have growth spurts.  The concern isn't the growth but how prepared are we to handle and manage it.  Did we know a growth spurt was coming?  Can we keep our quality to match our increased production?  Have we priced our products and services accordingly or are we undercutting ourselves?  Do our employees understand our culture?  Do we need more employees?  Is it time to switch from jack of all trades to delegating and specializing?

For children it's pretty easy to see if they're on track.  Grab your ruler makes some tick marks on the wall and talk with your pediatrician to make sure they are growing as they should.  For your business the formula gets a little more tricky.  So, yes the business down the hallway started at the same time as your business but does that mean you should expect the same rate of growth or success.

While industry data does assist you in understanding how you stack up your real measurement of success is a bit different.  Frankly what's most important is not that you are growing at the same rate as another business but are you able to grow healthily.  As a consultant I've worked with companies that have been around for more than a decade but because they've never planned but only reacted they are only a crisis away from having to shut their doors.

The simple truth is that many businesses have never written a business plan, established what kind of culture they want for their office, developed policy and procedure manuals or developed a training procedure.  So, there is no need to be amazed that the business that has been in your neighborhood forever has all of a sudden shut it's doors because you either Grow Right of Die.

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I'm Just A Bill...or AM I

School House Rock.  I'm Just A Bill

Even after all of these years I still love this video.  School House Rock gave us more than just a mini education on how a bill becomes a law. We were also taught that to become a law is not an overnight process. We see the idea being developed, supported, written out, marketed, sidelined, modified, killed, resurrected and when least expected SUCEED.

As an entrepreneur this PROCESS is all too familiar.  Every day as we strive to obtain the brass ring, reach the end goal, and live out the promise BUT in order to get there we must deal with TODAY.  Quite often where we are doesn't match up to where we know that we will be or even where we think we should be.  This means that we have to have not only vision but faith through every up and down.  We have to make it through the process.

I often hear new entrepreneurs or wannabe entrepreneurs declaring how they will be an overnight success.  They are all looking for the light at the end of the tunnel to beam and shine upon them cementing their instantaneous success.  But as the saying goes the light at the end of the tunnel is a train.

So today you might be "Just a Bill" or just starting or just growing or just working from home or just have one employee but one day your business will be the law.  If we take our idea, write it out and find support for it, advertise and adjust it according to the market...If we are properly prepared then our potential can be converted to a successful, completed product.  Be okay with where you are but always be ready for what you are to become. 

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And Miles To Go Before I Sleep

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,   

But I have promises to keep,   

And miles to go before I sleep,   

And miles to go before I sleep.

Robert Frost and Will Smith might seem like strange philosophical bedfellows but the essence of their message is the same. EVERY entrepreneur knows this message and shares this sentiment with this excerpt from Frost's Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening and the quote from Will. To succeed you must sacrifice.

As an entrepreneur we sacrifice family time, vacations, financial security, MONEY, time, our sanity and lot and lots of sleep.  At this point in my journey as an entrepreneur even in my most frustrating moments I CAN'T GO BACK.  This means that my options are now limited.  I essentially succeed or die.

That death is not necessarily literal...but do you remember.  Do you remember someone else being in charge of your day?  Do you remember the dumb assignments that you were given?  Do you remember the stupid conversations that you had to be a part of?  Do you remember all of that hard work for "acceptable" pay but no real ownership in the success of that company?  Do you remember office politics?  Do you remember all of the reasons that you pulled the plug, or are thinking about pulling the plug, on your cushy gig? 

So, now going back after having lived even momentarily in the space of freedom - yes, there is fear - but now you can not remove the taste of freedom from your tastebuds. To return to the confines of someone else telling you whether or not you can take your daughter on her field trip or your mother to her doctor's appointment....well it's like death isn't it.  It's a death to your spirit.

So, this is why we jointly sacrifice knowing that a wonderful reward awaits us.  Some of us entrepreneurs might never be millionaires.  Some of us entrepreneurs may never do a TED Talk.  BUT you can be there for your family.  In my case I can run errands for my mother, even the stupid ones.  I can be there for a friend whose car has broken down.  I can attend the conference at my church August 1st and not have to fight about the time off.  I CAN...and so can you.

Always remember why you do what you do.  Enjoy the benefits of being your own boss.  While we might not sleep.  While me may stress.  In the end we have the greatest boss in the world although mine is an arduous taskmaster :).  Life has never been this good, so enjoy.

Shirley E. Crawford

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Happy Birthday to Me!...CheckPoint

There are points in our lives where we all stop from just grinding and reflect on where we are and where we wanted to be.  I call these checkpoints.  For some of us it only happens on New Year's Eve when we have a "come to Jesus" meeting with ourselves and make false promises of changes to come in the new year.  For others it might be certain points in your life like your 16th birthday, your first day of college, when you got married, had a kid or even your first home.

My checkpoint for the status of my life are my birthdays.  It's my annual evaluation which allows me a lot of time to pivot or plunge full steam ahead if desired.  But this year for the first time ever I felt, and still feel a little, melancholy.

I've been bold and I've been brave and I KNOW without any doubt that an amazing future lies before me but during the process I'm just feeling the aches and pains.  I miss my steady, nice paycheck.  I miss...okay that's what I miss.  (Just kidding I love all of my former members at BizWorks). 

I've chosen this point in my life to fully believe in me.  To offer me the advice I offer to so many others.  Frankly, I'm amazing at what I do.  I elevate people's ideas to a sustainable reality.  I console and cajole entrepreneurs who would otherwise operate in a silos.  I bring brands to life.  I help entrepreneurs value themselves and their business.  I educate and inspire with seminars and speeches.  I DO IT.

Yet, today as I've deleted a document that was due today.  Today, as I have yet to make the final changes to my website (www.2ndChanceRVA.com - please visit on Friday).  Today, as it's my birthday I'm reflecting on my life and the people in it. Today, like every other entrepreneur out there I pay myself on the back for my accomplishments, I kick myself in the butt for my failures and I go back and do it again until I've done it right.

If we don't love our businesses like a newborn child we may as well quit now.  And I'm not quitting I've only just begun.  So, if not for you then in honor of Shirley E. Crawford Day shake the dust off your feet and get moving until you arrive at Your Best.  I'll see you there.